Did I marry the right person? Article emailed in Discovery Weekend groups

Last May 14, 2006 I got married to a beautiful person who I love and cherish. After getting a few days rest I am back to work.
As I was checking my email, a member of the Discovery Weekend yahoo groups sent an article on "Did I marry the right person?"

Kind of weird if your thinking that I just got married and this is the next blog I have posted.

Actually if you will be reading the article which I posted below show the true nature of a relatioship. Read on and you might get what you are looking for... regarding the meaning of loving a person... loving your wife or loving your husband.

God Bless...

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DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
"How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a
large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your
husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's
why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the
imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there;
doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become
a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the
right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the
love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for
their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the
most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies
within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the
same
situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL
make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know
and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.

I am getting Married!!!!

I guess my title says it all.

I will be getting married already this coming May.

Since I am quite hectic in doing the arrangements, I definitely was not able to update this blog of mine.

So as a simple way of saying, I don't have the time yet to add more of my thoughts on my inner piece, this once in a lifetime event of mine explains it all.

Visit Ana and me in our website at the wedding library website.

Internet Connection speed Survey of Openpinoy.com

As I was browsing through a local second hand computer shop, I noted their online poll regarding internet connection speed.
The screenshot above (March 18, 2006) with 408 who answered shows that the highest vote goes to the 256K dsl connection followed by the modem connection.

It seems local users are feeling a good bang for the buck in terms of speed and price for the offers given by DSL providers. I wonder if the limiting factor is the infrastructure in connecting all the possible customers who like to have a faster connection.

Lately most of the people I know and talked to complain that they can not get the regular DSL connection because of
1. The area is already "full" or "saturated"
2. The area is too far (eventhough it is in Q.C)

I wonder how this poll will turn out after a year.

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Happy Valentine's Day

Every year, a day in February, we celebrate (with all the marketing hype) and give acknowledgement to the person(s) who are dear to us.
Skyrocketing prices for flowers, all the different chocolates and/or cakes are part of the celebration.

But what is important is how you cherish and show how much you value and care for that special someone.

And before the day ends I would like to greet the women/ladies who made a difference in my life.

1. My girlfriend-Ana
2. My mom
3. My sister
4. My best friend Merci Guilas
5. My 2 special staff in school, Kathy and Gemma

Happy Valentine's Day everyone....

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Jazz Speakers' J1321 USB model: Speakers beyond my expectations

The usual complaint I say to myself when I use my ibook is the built in speakers. When I want to listen to music or watch movies in a not so quiet environment, I definitely cannot hear the sound. I have my old desktop PC speakers but that needs to be plugged in a power socket which limits its "portability".

As I went to Broadway Centrum to get some Mac stuff c/o another Mac enthusiast who has a Photo/Fuji film shop there, I passed by in Broadway's newly renovated computer shop area and saw a nice looking ball shape crystal speakers made by Jazz Speakers. Priced at 895 pesos in Gaisano PC shop, I was attracted to the shape as well as to the white covering which of course complements my iBook.

I asked the staff to try it out since I feel that the sound would be poor quality. However, when they played music, the PC shop staff and myself was pleasantly surprised that the sound was crisp and full. I am not an audiophile but I definitely see the more than expected sound quality that this unit produce.

As I tried it on my iBook, I simply plugged it in the USB port and voila!!!! I got a very nice sound system for my iTunes and movie playing. It is still bulky approximately the size of my closed fist with my other fist on top of the closed fist.

The good side is that it uses the USB port which gets its power there as well as the audio. It claims it has 200w PMPO. The crackling sound you hear when connecting speakers to the audio out port is not experienced which I often get irritated with my previous speakers. The usb and speaker to speaker cord is around 1.5 meters.

It works also on winXP (autodetect) and win98 (via drivers).
If you are looking for better sound at a good price and no power cords, this may be the unit you need.

The specifications: Jazz speakers Model J1321
Output: 0.5w x 2
Driver: 2.5" Full Range
Impedance: 4 ohms
Freq. Response: 100 Hz-20Khz
Magnetically shielded: Yes
Dimension (WxHxD): 103x103x80 mm
with Xear 3D technology

Pros:
No more power cord via USB
Digital sound via USB
More than expected sound quality for its price

Cons:
Size still a bit bulky
Use of USB port might be limiting for some

Support LUISA project Advocacy for patients with Systemic Lupus Erythematosus

The LUISA project or Lupus Inspired Advocacy is an organization dedicated to the support and information dissemination of patients who have the condition known as Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (SLE).

SLE affects many organs of the body that lead to debilitating conditions that is carried through out their lifetime. It impairs the individual in their function.

During the PRA convention that I attended, I happen to visit their booth and have known the people behind the organization. It is then I realized that they have very minimal exposure to the general public. So through this present Blog I do hope that you try to see their organization at www.luisaproject.org

If you plan to support the organization in their research and patients afflicted with the condition, they sell greeting cards that is beautifully cross stitched by one of their members who has the condition. It is specially printed as shown


"Madonna and Child" - cross stitch creation by the deformed,
rheumatoid arthritic hands of Eloisa Aguinaldo



"Madame Butterfly " - oil in canvas by renowned artist Ben C. Francisco

Visit their website and share your blessings to the organization who supports the ones in need.

Another website to visit is www.lupus.ph that gives more information on the condition.

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Philippine Rheumatological Associaton convention

What a day!!!!! After my Ateneo MBAH class, this is the first time that I got to attend again a non Philippine Academy of Rehabilitation Medicine (PARM) convention. The Philippine Rheumatological Associaton (PRA) convention is an annual event that deals with updates on the present management, diagnostic procedures and trends with rheumatological conditions.

I was a bit surprised that as a specialist in Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation, my other colleagues in the field are also in the convention. We were joking that it seems that it is a PARM convention. The first day was quite a medical information overload but definitely it was worth every moment.

Dr. Bee Giok Tan Sales my chairperson in the hospital I hold my clinic was one of the guest speaker. She discussed the functional impairements that come with rheumatological conditions.

What I like the most among the topics was the evidence based approach regarding the current studies that plague the new anti-inflammatory drugs, specifically the COX-2 type of Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS).

I do hope PARM invites the speaker for our own convention. Quite a lecture.

Tomorrow will be day 2. Hopefully it will be as medically rich in content as day 1.

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Things that happened after my last post prior to this

After again a long hiatus, I have finally posted again in my blog.
The things that have happened after my last post are:

1. I have passed my Final Strategic Management Paper in Ateneo Graduate School of Business last December and
2. I have finished defending my Paper also last December. The last requirement is to pass the revised paper and
3. I did just that during the first week of January 2006

Now after finishing my studies I am now able to focus on the following:
1. Doing the plans I made in my strategic paper in the section I am handling and carrying it through.
2. Be able to concentrate more on issues in the school I handle particularly faculty and administrative tasks.
3. Be able to be more regular on my clinic schedule which took a large compromise during my studies.
4. Be able to study more on the clinical and medical aspect instead of administrative aspects.

What I miss and wish I can resume are the following:
1. Return to sports activity like jogging or brisk walking
2. Be able to climb mountains or hike again during weekends
3. Able to sleep longer on Saturdays!!!!!! (just for now)

Now is that not a busy schedule?
Yes I believe that is a hectic one.

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